Last week we decided to do something special… we decided to get married. This is something that I didn’t expect to happen, well, honestly ever. He always told be that if he got married again, he wasn’t going to rush into which is funny to me because we live together and are expecting a baby in the next 10 or less weeks.
In a casual conversation, over text, Doug suggested we get married before the end of the month. There is a two-part reason for this sudden rush…. the biggest being that in order for me to change my insurance to one that my delivering hospital will accept since they have changed everything after being bought out by a private company. The other reason is that we love each other and we are going to be a family solet’s make it official.
I am not going to lie, I was super hesitant at first because I wanted this wedding to be a beautiful wedding since my first was a shotgun wedding at the justice of the peace. I finally accepted the fact that this wasn’t like my first because I wasn’t feeling forced into it and that we will be renewing our vowels and having a party next year. That will give me a year to plan the beautiful wedding with the dress of dreams.
Still, I am in shock that it all happened and we got it together starting Wednesday. In New Jersey, we have a 3 day waiting period to pick up the marriage license which left us with Monday (today) and Tuesday (Halloween) to get the ceremony performed to make the necessary changes for the insurance in time. We chose Monday because it is my late Grandfather’s birthday which is very special to me.
Once we got the license process started, we had to find an officiant. This seemed to be the hardest part to set up. We tried the local Mayors and they either only did it on specific day, NOT MONDAY, or took forever to get back to us. So I found a website that I entered the details of what we were looking for and gave us a list of officiants in our area plus their fee. I contacted one that I thought looked really nice and had a good rating which worked out wonderful. RevJeff was awesome and thoughtful and I hope he will do our renewal next year.
Last was clothing and flowers… I didn’t do the traditional white dress because I am saving that for the renewal ceremony. Since Doug and I love purple, everything was a shade of purple. I found a dress in the Motherhood Maternity section at boscovs and matched it with a little black cardigan. Well it was so cold that I ended up wearing my poncho to stay warm. Danyella found a pretty lace dress and we let her get “high heels”. Doug already had a purple shirt and tie so that was easy. We got the flowers from a local grocery store that sells really nice bouquets and my sister made nice arrangements for us to hold.
Overall, the ceremony was cold but nice. We had it in the park under some trees surrounded by some of the family that could make it. Since we were keeping it quiet, we surprised everyone by announcing it on Facebook and Instagram which shocked most people since we didn’t have an engagement period. Happy Birthday to my Pop Pop and Happy Wedding Day to Doug and I.
Even though post partum depression is still a very quiet subject that most people do not want to talk about, depression during pregnancy is an even quieter subject. I suffered from anxiety and depression long before my pregnancy but went off of my medication once I found out I was pregnant. I would do anything to keep my unborn baby healthy, but at what cost to myself.
When your week consists of being on the go between classes, mid-terms, doctors appointments, dance, family life and just life itself, being able to cook was not on the menu this week. We ended up eating out for most of our meals or eating the leftovers because we needed everything to be quick and easy.
It’s Teach Me Tuesday and we are continuing our Halloween/Fall theme with DIY Glass pumpkins which you can make 2 for under $8! These pumpkins are cute for your porch, table or another place in your house. If you opt to get plastic bowls or can trust your child with Glass (even with the 10-year-old I am weary) you can have he kids participate in making these pumpkins!
