To All of My Friends,
Thank you for the support you have given me before I had this precious little baby that makes my whole world go round. Some of you are moms and some of you are not which means some of you understand what I am going through right now. My day, everyday, consists of taking care of this little person that relies solely on me to take care of their needs. This means lots of feedings, diaper changes and snuggles throughout the day and very little sleep.
I am sorry for not returning your calls or texts. I do see them and intend of getting back to you but I am usually in the throes of a baby related activity that I forget. When I remember again, it’s usually when I am awake for the 4am feeding which is not ideal to text someone to have a conversation. Then days go by and I remember again but feel guilty that I forgot so I don’t text or call you back because I have become a bad friend. I know many of you have given up on waiting for that text back and I am sorry. I am sorry that I have become a bad friend.
I see your fun times on Instagram and Facebook and wish I could be out having fun with you. My fun times are seeing my baby smile and giggle, to see their first roll over, being there for their first steps and when they speak their first word. My bottles are now filled with special booby juice instead of special grape juice. So when you have a drink, please have an extra one for me!
I don’t know when I can return to being a good friend again but I hope that when I am ready, you are willing to be my friend again. I look forward to have fun friend times again but right now my friend times are taken over with baby times. For those of you that are not mom’s yet, I will be there to support you when you are in the throes of Mommyhood. For my friends that are already mommies, I can’t wait to have playdates in the future.
I know that I am not a good friend right now but I am being the best Mommy that I can be. I am raising a precious child that will shape this world into a good world for all people. One day we will go out and have that glass of wine that I am dying for girly filled talking but until then enjoy your life and fun times.
Your Friend that is the Mommy to an Infant
5 thoughts on “A Letter To My Friends From an Infant’s Mom”
So true! Being a new mom is tough, but you will get used to a schedule and get out for fun soon enough again 🙂
I realized after my first baby that I don’t really care to be a good friend anymore. I want to be a mommy and nurture the next generation. That being said – after my third baby I have found a small group of friends that understand I can’t do things all the time. Between work, family and school we only get together about once per quarter. That’s enough to catch up. There is a season to everything.
You aren’t a bad friend.. everyone is just at different places in their lives and people should understand that you are busy because of your new baby.
I think a true friend would understand. Even if that means you won’t talk everyday, or ever again, they would still have love in their heart. We’ve all had these transitions. You are doing what’s best for your family.
It can definitely be tough to be a new mom and be able to have your friends like you used to. There is going to be that balance again though!